- Enormously talented people with low self-confidence who never made it
- Bumblers with over-flowing self-confidence who succeed beyond belief
When we doubt, question, and criticize our abilities, we self-sabotage. The more negative feedback we give ourselves, the more we believe it must be true.
We says things like:
- “Since I don’t have an MBA, my ideas will never be heard.”
- “I couldn’t possibly be considered for a supervisory job without formal training.”
- “No one will hire me since I’ve been out of work so long.”
- “Introverts like me can’t become successful speakers.”
It’s time to reboot.
Reprogram your head.
Low self-confidence can be physically painful. When those feelings start to set in, they disturb the way we feel and how we behave.
That means we need to take steps to minimize the chance that our shaky self-confidence will rear its ugly head.
Although it’s never too late, it’s helpful when we learn how to do this when we’re young.
The two girls have become an international sensation because of their repeated appearances on the Ellen show, their captivating personalities (Sophia Grace’s singing talent and exuberance; Rosie’s adorable look and understated manner), their love of pink tutus, and their wide-eyed innocence.
The Super Bass lyrics (which, fortunately, they admit they don’t understand) are enormously complicated but took them only two days to learn. Sophia Grace does the singing and Rosie mostly mouths the words.
During one of their interviews with Ellen, the outgoing Sophia Grace was asked about her relationship on stage with Rosie. She answered:
“Rosie makes me feel more confident.”
When the girls were treated on Ellen to a surprise meeting with their idol Nicki Minaj, Nicki lauded Sophia Grace’s singing and praised Rosie as being her “hype” girl.
Together Sophia Grace and Rosie are a true team.
The foundation for self-confidence starts with:
- Loving what you do and then doing it with great energy, enthusiasm, and commitment whether you are great at it or not. (Greatness will come eventually if you want it enough.)
- Feeling inspired to press on to keep getting better
- Support from others–friends, family, mentors, bosses, anyone
- Courage to take chances, reach out, and ask for the support you need
Here’s how the steps in the formula worked for the little girls in pink:
- Sophia Grace and Rosie started with the joy of singing together.
- They were inspired by their singing idol and learned that complex song.
- They had supportive parents who made and posted the YouTube video and they had each other.
- They took advantage of the chance to go to the Ellen show and all the experiences that followed.
There are examples like this everywhere. Listen to those contestants on the TV show, The Voice, who, when asked by judges like Cee Lo Green, what kind of help they’re looking for from a coach, the answer from many is: “My self-confidence isn’t the best.”
Listen to interviews with athletes who struggle to break through to the next level, and they will talk about “not believing” in themselves and “struggling with self-confidence” in the big matches or games.
It doesn’t matter how accomplished we are, self-confidence is always the deal-maker or deal- breaker going forward.
So what are you going to do to break through the barriers of your own self-confidence to:
- Perform better
- Expand your capabilities
- Build a stronger personal brand
- Achieve that promotion or new job
You need to surround yourself with the right people who will provide the encouragement, insights, knowledge, and feedback you need to sustain positive self-confidence along the way. Then you need to keep working and striving.
We’re not expected to succeed alone. Actually, I don’t think we can. It’s essential to reach out.
Photo from Ariana fan via Flickr