A supervisor’s nightmare—the employee with a “problem” attitude. Makes you feel like you just drew the Old Maid card.
What to do? You have an employee with a personality, work style, or temperament that is driving you crazy or aggravating others, making it harder to get the work done. And you don’t want to fire.
Performance appraisal is how supervisors save us from ourselves.
Good supervisors use appraisal to teach and guide. Most employees with attitude issues aren’t aware of any problem: it’s just their way.
You know you’ve got an “attitude” problem employee when these things start to happen:
- Peers would rather do a job alone than work with him/her
- Discussion at a meeting goes dead when he/she speaks
- S/he insists that work be done his/her way or hoards work
- Direction is always questioned
- S/he consistently criticizes, competes with, or dismisses the work of others
Each of these situations points to an attitude that needs defining. Where to start?
Connect “attitude” to observable behaviors that impact productivity. 
The first step in dealing with “attitude” issues is to demonstrate how the employee’s behavior is affecting the work. Here’s how you prepare:
- Observe and take notes of specific instances (about 6) where the attitude was obvious.
- Make a list of the impacts you saw, like defensiveness from others, resistance, stalled decisions, or delay.
- Determine specifically how these impacts will affect the output of your work group.
Next meet with the employee to talk about their performance to date and your intention to coach them to improve:
- Raise the attitude issue by sharing your recent observations, naming the dates and situations.
- Explain what you observed and ask them to offer their perspective.
- Be specific about the current and future impacts of their “attitude” on the productivity of the group.
- Ask what they are willing to do to improve and how you can help them.
Raise the stakes and engage the employee in orchestrating his/her own change.
Most of us don’t change unless there are negative consequences that we can avoid by doing things differently. The more we want to make a positive change and reap the rewards, the more invested we are in the work we need to do.
At this point, explain the next steps to the employee:
- Together agree on a performance goal(s) for the balance of the year focused on the “attitude” change that needs to be made
- Require the employee to write and submit a plan of action to achieve it
- Establish how this change will be evaluated
Gather direct feedback from peers and internal customers.
Nothing gets our attention more than knowing what others are saying about us, especially in the workplace. So here’s what you can do:
- Develop 5-8 questions with the employee to be asked of their internal customers, focused on their approach to getting work done.
- Identify 8-10 peers and internal customers that the employee will ask to answer those questions.
- Develop a process and timing for collecting the feedback and submitting it confidentially to you.
- Explain that, as the supervisor, you will also ask 8-10 people to respond.
- Compile the feedback. Discuss summarized findings with the employee.
- Reset his/her goals and strategies to improve.
If you are cringing about the effort this takes, I understand. But if you’ve ever fired anyone for poor performance, you know that the documentation, meetings, and general agony of that process make this look like a vacation.
The first pass at this requires the most work. The next time is much easier. How you handle your first “attitude” problem will gain you enormous credibility with your employees. It’s an approach that demonstrates your commitment to helping employees succeed. Being business fit means taking the lead when the chips are down. This is one of those times.
What kinds of “bad attitudes” have you witnessed in the workplace? How were they handled? Any ideas to add? Thanks.





It’s so good to have your emphasize:
1. Use performance appraisals to teach and guide
2.Connecting attitude to observable behaviors, particularly since “bad” attitude can be subjective.
How can someone change if it’s not clear what’s wrong. And sometimes people get labeled because they don’t automatically agree with the boss or the team.
3.The Direct Feedback questions (great approach)need to emphasize need for specificity and observable behaviors.
Lots of good suggestions in this Dawn.
Thanks for the affirmations, Cherry. I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard managers and supervisors complain and, yes, negatively label employees as having “bad attitudes” and then do nothing. If no help is given, no improvement will be made. If help is given and no change made, then the next step is to replace. I’ve always believed that it was my job as a supervisor was to teach. Always great to have you add your insights. Thanks.
Thank you Dawn!!! Your encouragment always makes the steps easier to begin. So we each ask 8-10 people to respond to the questions? That’s alot of feedback and should be good support to move ahead. You’re always full of “just in time” tips!!! Thanks!!!
You’re very welcome, Diane. The employee asks 5-8 people for feedback and the supervisor more, simply because you want to gather data that covers the “reach” of the employee’s impacts. The employee would ask peers and internal customers. The supervisor would ask a different set of peers and internal customers as well as other supervisors within and outside the department. Some external customers may be asked where appropriate. It’s the feedback, especially the common themes, that gets the employee’s attention and gives you the greatest chance of seeing a change. So glad you found this helpful. Thanks for your coment and praise!
Thank you Dawn! I have an employee just as you are speaking about. I am learning so much from you and plan to reset the expectations. Can you please give me some idea of what type of “questions” can be asked and answered by peers of this employee?
Thanks for your nice comment and question. I’m glad these posts are helpful to you and ultimately for your employees. The peer questions should have enough breadth so that you’ll have a good range of feedback. Your employee’s peers can comment on contribution to the work output, reliability/dependability, communication style and effectiveness, accessibility, work quality, ability to work collaboratively…those kinds of things. The best questions are specific to work that is done with employee and peers, so peers are commenting on their actual experiences and not hearsay. I would be sure to make that a criteria for their answers and give them an opportunity to say so when they didn’t personally observe something. Unfortunately this is a very generalized answer. I hope it give you ideas to work with. ~Dawn
What if the manager is the problem? My manager’s husband passed away. She thinks she is handling it well, however, she has become abusive and belittling to her team members. I broached the subject with her, and she became even more abusive and belittling. She also isolates team members. Suggestions?
If your manager was not abusive before her loss, that would be telling. If her current conduct is negatively impacting performance and productivity and you are the supervisor, then you need to document that in very specific terms in some way. You might try the “snapshot” taking approach I outline in this post (http://wp.me/pJhPc-c2 ) as a way to get through to her, if you still have the energy to address it about her. You might seek some counsel from your HR department or mentoring from a respected manager in another part of the company. These things are never easy. Good luck, Dawn
i have an employee with attitude problem such as surly, rude talking, disrespect, complaining and inattention to work. I talked to her about this how she doesn’t accept nor admit her mistakes. However she blames me and i caused her to have this kind of problem. Tried logically explain an example of her bad attitude but still doesn’t accept. What should i do?
You have a tough situation to deal with and ask an important question. Although I can’t answer it specifically, here are two posts I wrote on how to get employees to face up to their behaviors. You might give the steps here a try: Use “Snapshots” Not “Potshots” to Wake Up Employees–http://wp.me/pJhPc-c2 and in Rude, Difficult, Insubordinate: No More Employees Behaving Badly–http://wp.me/pJhPc-aB. Until you get your employee to own her behavior, things will go in a vicious circle. She might want to blame you but unless she can deliver specific reasons why her poor conduct is a function of your behavior, her declaration has no merit. Ultimately, there needs to be an actual consequence for her continued negative behavior. She needs to understand that it cannot be tolerated. You may need to get your boss on board as you figure out what that may be. Hopefully, the steps in the “snapshots” post will be a useful start. Many thanks for reading my post and for sharing your situation. Good luck. ~Dawn
Work hard and diligently to make your business a success, often to the exclusion of other things. Your goals must be matched by your actions and if your business goals are massive, then so must your actions be massive.
Thanks, Jeriea, for adding these important perspectives to this post. You’re right, hard work that is smart work is the key to success. We need them both so we don’t just spin our wheels. Of the nearly 200 posts I’ve written in the past 2 years, this one alone has had the most views…over 4,000. So the issue remains key. Great to hear from you. Best, ~Dawn
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